Double A Dads

well, if there is one thing I’m going to do, it’s definitely write and share my story. I’ve done it about everything in life so far, whether it was my travels, my love for theatre, my drag career, I love sharing my experiences, maybe it’ll reach someone who needs it. and today, whilst driving to a gig in full make up and thinking about the past few weeks, I thought “oh yes, that’s going to do it for me!” and within an hour I bought a domain, set up a wordpress account, and started writing.

I bring to you, the most unfiltered, the unedited, and the one thing I wanted the most since I can remember … mine and my husband’s parenting journey.

YES! it has been something I’ve wanted since growing up, to become a dad. and when I met my now husband, we both agreed that kids will be in our future. who would’ve thought that today we are living said future? well, nearly!

as it stands, I’m writing this on the 16th of October, 283 days since our initial visit from our local authority. we are currently in what’s called the “matching” period, but the latter part of it.

start of September, we had a call from our social worker saying there’s a profile she’d like us to explore. we were very excited and jumped on a call as quick as we could, and after finding out the initial important areas, we discussed it and felt that it could potentially be the right match for us. lo and behold, we’re here today about to go to matching panel in just a few days. and yes, we know this is very fast in the usual matching process, but due to circumstances, it all turned out like this (we’re not complaining AT ALL!)

this has been the most joyful, emotional, rewarding and informative experience I’ve been on in my life so far, and I’m sure my husband agrees. from a discussion many moons ago, to parenthood (manifesting it, yes!) in just a few weeks.

I think one question that might come up now is, “why start a blog so late in the process?” and I thought about starting this during the whole process, but it just never felt right. I feel like there is a lot of information out there regarding the adoption process, and definitely a lot more about parenting. but I feel like there is a lack of experiences about parenting adopted children. so I’m hoping to fill that gap and be as realistic with you as I can.

and yes, I know parenting is a 24/7 job and it might be difficult to find time to write a blog on a scheduled pattern. so behold, I’m going to try and be as present as possible and as real and honest as I can be, but I’m also going to be keeping a little human alive, safe and happy!

how about we finish there for today and then I’ll write something about the start of the process from the very beginning? sounds like a plan?

will see you then!

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